Go on Anonymous and tell me one thing you’ve been too scared to tell me, but have always wanted to say.
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This is one of the most insulting things that I have ever seen, it makes me so mad I actually want to cry. I can’t believe magazines think that they can just dip a woman in brown paint, give her clothes from my culture to put on for a couple hours and then have audacity to call her an “African Queen”. Growing up I heard every joke about Africans and saw the negative stereotypes portrayed by the media that tried to make me feel so bad about where I come from. Yet Ive noticed when fashion magazine want to do spreads portraying poise and exoticness they often turn to Africa ( and many other foreign continents/nations) proving time and again that Africa is more than the negative images you see in the media) but this time, to try and take parts of my beautiful culture just to have white women play the role of an “African Queen” proves that beauty cannot be seen in our countries/cultures unless it is represented by White people.
Do you remember me telling you we are practicing non-verbal spells, Potter?”
“Yes,” said Harry stiffly.
“There’s no need to call me “sir” Professor.”
The words had escaped him before he knew what he was saying.
- J.K. Rowling, Harry Potter and the Half-Blood Prince (via feellng)
Coercion is when you make the consequences to saying “no” to intimacy so great that it removes any reasonable choice. There is more obvious coercion, such as threats, either externally or internally directed. But I find that coercion just sort of organically arises when you believe that your partner, in that moment, owes you intimacy. If you think your partner owes you intimacy, and you are just “expressing your feelings,” there’s a good chance you’re being coercive. If your partner says “no,” and you start preparing for a fight instead of accepting their choice, you’re probably going to be coercive.
in a bdsm-sepecific context, this is why, for example, saying things like “obey the (consentually written and signed) ‘slave contract’ or else end the relationship” as a romantic ideal or practice is coercive- if the option is consent or lose a lover and main emotional support, as well as in come cases and home and family, there is no reasonable choice. it is not a full expression of consent. same with saying things like “you’ll get a punishment if you don’t obey daddy now” (without explicit in-the-moment consent to a resistance roleplay) or “a true slave does x”… threatening punishments, or even shame, for refusing sexual activity is coersion.
In social issues class today our professor held up a black book and was like “this book is red” and we were all “no” and he said “yes it is” and we were just all “that’s not right” and he turned it around and the back cover was red and he said “Don’t tell somebody they’re wrong until you’ve seen things from their point of view”
that speaks to me
I want him to know he’s becoming the next Tumblr sensation
She will always be my first lady-love.